Fri 18 Jm2 1435 - 18 April 2014
There was an argument between a wife and her husband, and the husband said to her: “Today will be your divorce, today you want me to divorce you, today I want to divorce you, today you will be divorced.” But she is not certain about the last phrase, “Today you will be divorced” - did he say that or not? After that they reconciled in the same sitting and the argument ended. The sister wants to know the ruling on the words that her husband said and she asked me to write to you.
Praise be to Allaah.
What we understand from his words is that they were a threat of divorce, but not actually issuing a divorce. Because the husband made up with his wife and did not divorce after that, no divorce actually occurred.
We advise the husband to avoid using the words of divorce (talaaq), because divorce is not prescribed as an outlet for anger, and repeatedly using such words destroys trust between the spouses and exposes the family to destruction.
We ask Allah to set the affairs of all of us straight.
And Allah knows best.