Praise be to Allaah.
Inna Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji‘oon
(Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return).
This is a very serious matter which shocks us to the core.
How can the shepherd who is entrusted with the care of his flock turn into a
ravenous wolf? How can a person -- no matter what his knowledge and
education -- sink so low he thinks he has the right to do anything with his
daughters, even as far as intercourse, and justify that as obedience to
parents. Glory be to You (O Allah), this is a great lie.
Undoubtedly the one who regards that as permissible is a
kaafir according to the consensus of all Muslims. The fact that this is
haraam is well known to any Muslim, and doing it is a perversion which no
one would dare to do openly except a heretic.
You did right to tell your mother and to take all measures to
prevent him from doing these perverted and deviant acts with you. You have
to treat him kindly and obey him in that which is right and proper, not in
something that is a sin.
You do not have to marry your paternal cousin; you have the
right to accept him or reject him. It is not permissible to force a woman to
marry someone she does not want, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: “The previously-married woman has more right
concerning herself than her guardian does, and the virgin should be asked
for permission, and her permission is her silence.” Narrated by Muslim,
And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A
previously-married woman should not be married until she has been consulted,
and a virgin should not be married until her permission has been sought.”
They said: O Messenger of Allaah, what is her permission? He said: “If she
remains silent. Narrated by Muslim, 1491.
If the righteous man whom you like proposes marriage but your
father rejects him because he is not one of your family, then he is
preventing you from marrying, and guardianship of you passes from him to the
next closest male relative, who is the grandfather if he is present, then
your brother. He may give you a marriage without the consent of the father.
But you have to pay attention to negative consequences that may result from
See the answer to question number
We advise you to do a lot of acts of worship, turn to Allah
and ask Him to protect you and your sisters.
We ask Allah to help and guide you.
And Allah knows best.