Praise be to Allaah.
Yes, examples will certainly explain and clarify what is meant, so we
will move straight on to quoting some of the most important points that the scholars and
leaders of da’wah have said about different ways of showing friendship towards
Accepting their kufr and doubting that it is kufr at all, or refraining
from labelling them as kaafirs, or praising their religion. Allaah says about the kufr of
the one who accepts them (interpretation of the meaning): “… but such as open
their breasts to disbelief…” [al-Nahl 16:106]. Allaah says, making it
obligatory to label the kaafirs as such (interpretation of the meaning): “…
Whoever disbelieves in Taaghoot [false deities] and believes in Allaah, then he has
grasped the most trustworthy handhold that will never break…” [al-Baqarah
2:256]. Allaah says about the munaafiqoon (hypocrites) who prefer the kuffaar to the
Muslims (interpretation of the meaning) “… [they] say to the disbelievers
that they are better guided as regards the way than the believers (Muslims).”
Referring to them for judgement. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “…
they wish to got for judgement (in their disputes) to the Taaghoot (false judges, etc.)
while they have been ordered to reject them…” [al-Nisa’ 4:60]
Befriending and liking them. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning): “You will not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day,
making friendship with those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger…”
Inclining towards them, relying upon them and taking them as a support.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And incline not towards those who do
wrong, lest the Fire should touch you…” [Hood 11:113]
Helping and supporting them against the Muslims. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): “The believers, men and women, are awliya’
(helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another…” [al-Tawbah 9:71].
He also says of the kuffaar that they are “ but awliya’ (helpers, supporters,
friends, protectors) to one another…” [al-Maa’idah 5:51]. And He
says (interpretation of the meaning): “…And if any amongst you takes them as
awliya’, then surely he is one of them.” [al-Maa’idah 5:51].
Becoming members of their societies, joining their parties, increasing
their numbers, taking their nationalities (except in cases of necessity), serving in their
armies or helping to develop their weapons.
Bringing their laws and rules to the Muslim countries. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): “Do they then seek the judgement of the Days of
Ignorance?…” [al-Maa’idah 5:50]
Taking them as friends in general terms, taking them as helpers and
supporters, and throwing in one’s lot with them. Allaah forbids all this, as He says
(interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the
Christians as awliya’ (friends, protectors, helpers, etc.), they are but awliya’
to one another…” [al-Maa’idah 5:51].
Compromising with them and being nice to them at the expense of
one’s religion. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “They wish that
you should compromise (in religion out of courtesy) with them, so that they (too) would
compromise with you.” [al-Qalam 68:9]. This includes sitting with them and
entering upon them at the time when they are making fun of the Signs of Allaah. Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): “And it has already been revealed to you in
the Book that when you hear the Verses of Allaah being denied and mocked at, then sit not
with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them),
certainly in that case you would be like them…” [al-Nisa’ 4:140]
Trusting them and taking them as advisors and consultants instead of the
believers. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Take
not as (your) bitaanah (advisors, consultants, protectors, helpers, friends, etc.) those
outside your religion (pagans, Jews, Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail
to do their best to corrupt you. They desire to harm you severely. Hatred has already
appeared from their mouths, but what their breasts conceal is far worse. Indeed We have
made clear to you the aayaat (proofs, evidence, verses), if you understand. Lo! You are
the ones who love them but they love you not, and you believe in all the Scriptures [i.e.,
you believe in the Tawraat and the Injeel, while they disbelieve in your Book (the
Qur’aan)]. And when they meet you, they say, ‘We believe.’ But when they
are alone, they bite the tips of their fingers at you in rage. Say: ‘Perish in your
rage. Certainly Allaah knows what is in the breasts (all the secrets).’ If a good
befalls you, it grieves them, but some evil overtakes you, they rejoice at it…”
[Aal ‘Imran 3:118-120].
Imaam Ahmad and Muslim reported that the Prophet
(peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) went out to (the battle of) Badr, and a man from among the
mushrikeen followed him and caught up with him at al-Harrah. He said, “I wanted to
follow you and join you, and have some of the war-booty with you.” (The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)) said: “Do you believe in Allaah and His
Messenger?” He said, “No.” He said, “Go back, I do not need help from
From these texts it is clear that we are forbidden to appoint kaafirs
to positions whereby they could find out the secrets of the Muslims and plot against them
by trying to do all kinds of harm.
Putting them in administrative positions where they are bosses of
Muslims and can humiliate them, run their affairs and prevent them from practising their
religion. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… and never will
Allaah grant to the disbelievers a way (to triumph) over the believers.”
[al-Nisa’ 4:141]. Imaam Ahmad reported that Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari (may Allaah
be pleased with him) said: “I said to ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him).
‘I have a Christian scribe.’ He said, ‘What is wrong with you, may Allaah
strike you dead! Have you not heard the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning), “O
you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as awliya’ (friends,
protectors, helpers, etc.), they are but awliya’ to one another…”
[al-Maa’idah 5:51]”? Why do you not employ a haneef [i.e., a Muslim]?’
I said, ‘O Ameer al-Mu’mineen, I benefit from his work and he keeps his religion
to himself.’ He said, ‘I will never honour them when Allaah has humiliated them,
and I will never bring them close to me when Allaah has expelled them from His
Similarly, we should not employ them in Muslim homes where they can see
our private matters and they bring our children up as kaafirs. This is what is happening
nowadays when kaafirs are brought to Muslim countries as workers, drivers, servants and
nannies in Muslim homes and families.
Neither should we send our children to kaafir schools, missionary
institutions and evil colleges and universities, or make them live with kaafir families.
Imitating the kaafirs in dress, appearance, speech, etc., because this
indicates love of the person or people imitated. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”
It is forbidden to imitate the kaafirs in customs, habits and matters of
outward appearance and conduct that are characteristic of them. This includes shaving the
beard, letting the moustache grow long, and speaking their languages, except when
necessary, as well as matters of clothing, food and drink, etc.
Staying in their countries when there is no need to do so. Allaah
forbade the weak and oppressed Muslims to stay among the kaafirs if they are able to
migrate. He says (interpretation of the meaning): “Verily! As for those whom the
angels take (in death) while they are wronging themselves (as they stayed among the
disbelievers even though emigration was obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them):
‘In what (condition) were you?’ They reply, ‘We were weak and oppressed on
earth.’ They (angels) say: ‘Was not the earth of Allaah spacious enough for you
to emigrate therein?’ Such men will find their abode in Hell –what an evil
destination! Except the weak ones among men, women and children, who cannot devise a plan,
nor are the able to direct their way.” [al-Nisa’ 4:97-98].
Nobody will be excused for staying in a kaafir country except for those
who are truly weak and oppressed and cannot migrate, or those who stay among them for a
valid religious purpose such as da’wah and spreading Islam in their countries.
It is forbidden to live among them when there is no need to do so. The
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I disown the one who
stays among the mushrikeen.”
Travelling to their countries for vacations and leisure purposes. But
going there for a legitimate reason – such as medical treatment, trade, and learning
specialized skills that cannot be obtained in any other way – is permitted in cases
of need, and when the need has been fulfilled, it is obligatory to return to the Muslim
This permission is also given under the condition that the would-be
traveller has sufficient knowledge to dispel his doubts, to control his physical desires,
to demonstrate his religion, to be proud of being Muslim, to keep away from evil places,
and to be aware and cautious of the plots of his enemies. It is also permissible, and even
obligatory, to travel to their lands for the sake of da’wah and spreading Islam.
Praising them and their civilization and culture, defending them, and
admiring their behaviour and skills, without taking note of their false ideology and
corrupt religion. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And strain not
your eyes in longing for the things We have given for enjoyment to various groups of them
(disbelievers), the splendour of the life of this world that We may test them thereby. But
the provision (good reward in the Hereafter) of your Lord is better and more
lasting.” [Ta-Ha 20:131]. It is also forbidden to honour them, give them titles
of respect, initiate greetings to them, give them the best seats in gatherings, and give
way to them in the street. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “Do not be the first to greet a Jew or a Christian (do not initiate the
greeting), and if you meet one of them in the street, then push him to the narrowest part
of the way.”
Forsaking the Islamic calendar and using their calendar, especially
since it reflects their rituals and festivals, as is the case with the Gregorian (Western)
calendar, which is connected to the supposed date of the birth of the Messiah (peace be
upon him), which is an innovation that they have fabricated and that has nothing to do
with the religion of ‘Eesa (Jesus). Using this calendar implies approval of their
festivals and symbols.
In order to avoid all of that, when the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased
with them) established a calendar for the Muslims during the time of ‘Umar (may
Allaah be pleased with him), they ignored all the systems of the kuffaar and created a new
calendar starting from the date of the Prophet’s Hijrah. This indicates that it is
obligatory to differ from the kuffaar in this matter and others where it is the matter of
distinct characteristics. And Allaah is the Source of Help.
Taking part in their holidays and festivals, helping them to celebrate
them, congratulating them on these occasions or attending places where such celebrations
are held. The phrase al-zoor [falsehood] in the aayah (interpretation of the
meaning) “And those who do not witness falsehood…” [al-Furqaan 25:72]
was interpreted as meaning the festivals of the kuffaar.
Using their names that have bad meanings. The Prophet
blessings of Allaah be upon him) changed names whose meanings involved shirk, such as
‘Abd al-‘Uzza and ‘Abd al-Ka’bah.
Seeking forgiveness for them and asking Allaah for mercy for them.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “It is not (proper) for the Prophet
and those who believe to ask Allaah’s forgiveness for the mushrikeen, even though
they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire
(because they died in s state of disbelief).” [al-Tawbah 9:113]
These examples should give a clear picture of what is meant by the
prohibition of forming close friendships with the kaafirs. We ask Allaah to keep our
belief sound and our faith strong. And Allaah is the Source of Help.