Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
One of the
essential aims of Islamic sharee’ah is to protect lineages and honour. For
that reason Allaah has forbidden zina (illicit sexual relationships) and has
forbidden the means that may lead to that, such as a man being alone with a
woman who is not his mahram, sinful looking, travelling without a mahram, a
woman going out of her house wearing perfume and makeup, and clothed yet
naked. Another of these means is a man talking with a woman and her speaking
softly to him and tempting him and provoking his desire, making him fall
into her trap, whether that is when they meet in the street or talk on the
phone or correspond in writing etc.
Allaah
forbade the wives of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) – who were pure women – to display themselves like that of the
times of ignorance (Jaahiliyyah) or to speak in soft tones lest those in
whose hearts was a disease be moved with desire, and He commanded them to
speak in an honourable manner. Allaah said (interpretation of the meaning):
“O wives
of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to
Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of
hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but
speak in an honourable manner”
[al-Ahzaab 33:32]
See question no.
10221
Conversations and correspondence between men and women on the internet are
one of the means of fitnah (temptation) and evil. That is because these
conversations could go too far, which in turn often leads to love and
infatuation. Hence we must be strict about these matters and keep away from
them, seeking the pleasure of Allaah and hoping to avoid His punishment.
How often
have these conversations led people into evil, and made them fall in love
and led some of them to something that is even worse than that. See question
no. 34841.
Shaykh Ibn
Jibreen was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between young men
and women, knowing that this correspondence is free of any immoral content
or love?
He replied:
It is not
permissible for anyone to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram,
because of the fitnah involved in that. The correspondent may think that
there is no fitnah, but the Shaytaan will keep on at him until he makes him
fall in love with her and her with him. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) ordered the one who hears of the Dajjaal to
flee far away from him, and he said that a man may come to him as a believer
but the Dajjaal will keep on at him until he leads him astray.
Correspondence of young men with young women involves a great deal of fitnah
and danger, and it must be avoided, even if the questioner says that there
is no love or desire involved. End quote.
Fataawa
al-Mar’ah, compiled by Muhammad al-Musnad, p. 96.
Secondly:
The fasting
person is enjoined to fear Allaah and to do what He has commanded, and to
avoid what He has forbidden.
The purpose
of fasting is not simply to refrain from eating and drinking, rather the
purpose is to attain taqwa or piety – “that you may become Al-Muttaqoon
(the pious” [al-Baqarah 2:183] – and to discpilne oneself, and to give
up bad deeds. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Fasting is not just giving up food and drink, rather fasting is
giving up idle and obscene speech.” Narrated by al-Haakim; classed as saheeh
by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5376.
In the
answer to question no. 50063 we have explained the effect that sin has on the fast, and that it may take away the reward altogether.
And Allaah knows best.