Praise be to Allaah.
The correct view is that it is not allowed for women to
visit graves, because of the hadeeth mentioned. It was narrated that
the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who visit graves. Women should stop
visiting graves. The woman who visited a grave out of ignorance (of
this ruling) is not to blame, but she should not do it again. If she
does so, she has to repent and seek forgiveness, and repentance cancels
out whatever came before. Visiting graves is only for men. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: “Visit graves, for they will remind you of the Hereafter.”
At the beginning of Islam, visiting graves was not allowed for men and
women alike, because the Muslims were new in Islam and came from a background
where grave-worship and attachment to the dead were widespread. So they
were forbidden to visit graves as a preventative measure, to avoid evil
and prevent shirk. But once Islam was well-established and they understood
Islam, Allaah prescribed visiting the graves because of the lessons
and reminders of death and the Hereafter involved in that, and so that
they could make du’aa’ for the deceased and pray for mercy for them.
Then Allaah forbade woman to do that – according to the most correct
of the two scholarly opinions – because they may present a temptation
to men and even to themselves, and because they have little patience
and they get too upset. So by His mercy and kindness towards them, Allaah
forbade them to visit graves. This is also a form of kindness towards
the men, because if they were all to gather at the grave, this might
cause fitnah. So by His mercy, Allaah forbade women to visit graves.
But with regard to the prayer (women praying the funeral
prayer), there is nothing wrong with that. Women may join the funeral
prayer. The prohibition applies only to visiting the graves. Women should
not visit graves according to the more correct of the two scholarly
opinions, because of the ahaadeeth which indicate that that is forbidden.
She does not have to offer any kafaarah, all she has to do is repent.
From Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah li Samaahat al-Shaykh al-‘Allaamah ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), vol. 9, p. 282