591: Abnormal relationship between women
I am a believer and I am in love with a believer. We are both women and have
already had children who we are taking good care of, but their fathers have
deserted us . We both want to live as good muslims, but we love each other so
much . We have been told culturally that our love is an abomination, however we
cannot find anything in the Qur'an which condemns us or our actions. We are
hurting no one. We are employed. We are educating our children and nurturing
our families. We know the passage in the Qur'an about Soddem and Gommorah,
but that appears to deal with the rape of men by men. It does not speak to
monogamous love between two women. We love Allah and want to do his will.
We need more information about our situation.
If what is described above is the nature of the relationship between the two women mentioned in the question, then they must repent sincerely to Allaah and stop their evil actions. If their being together in one place will lead to them committing this sin, then they must never meet, so as to avoid this wrongful act. Their husbands desertion of them may be one of the reasons for them falling into this kind of perversion, because they have no legitimate way in which to fulfil their desires and so they have resorted to this haraam way. So they must think seriously of finding Muslim husbands with whom they can live in the way prescribed by Islaam.
As for love, this is a different kind of sin, which need not necessarily be associated with physical desire. It is dangerous because it leads to the lover worshipping the beloved, so that he thinks only of the one he loves, cannot bear to be parted from him by day and dreams about him at night; he lives and dies for his sake, and may change when he sees him and become sick when he is absent. This kind of relationship destroys a persons mental health and destroys his relationship with his Lord, because it makes the lover worship his beloved and it is haraam to worship anything other than Allaah.
The solution to this disastrous situation is total separation, so that one will never see that person, or hear news of him again.
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid