I am a female. and, me and my brother are
both adopted. We were brought into the house when we were only a few days old. We lived
our lives with our adoptive parents, not knowing our conditon. After practicing Islam, I
came to know that i was adopted. My age is now XXX. I lived with my parents until 18, then
i married. My husband told me that i must start to wear hijaab in front of my father, and
that he is not considered a mahram. We aksed, and someone said that we are Rabaa'b that
Allah mentioned in the Qur'an and that hijaab need not be done. We did not feel
comfortable and after asking further, we came to believe that He is not my Mahram, and
that I must do hijab. My adoptive father and mother are both very emotional people.
Whenever i mentioned adoption before, they imediately started to cry and could not talk.
This happens all the time.
Me and my husband were both scared that they would take this very badly,
so we decided that we would be subtle in the way we took this issue. When i visited my
adoptive parents last, i covered my hair with a type of pakistani scarf which is not
transparent, giving the excuse that many people work around the house. Also, i did not
wear a jilbaab, but wore lose clothes, Qamees and Sharwaal. Also i ate at the table, and
also freely talked to my adoptive father.
In front of all other non mahrams, i fully cover myself in black, even
cover my eyes, and do not talk to men without necessity.
Allah knows that the reason i am not doing full hijab is because of my
adoptive parents would react. They are old Father XXX, mother XXX, and they are weak in
their imaan in that they would not be able to understand nor accept this ruling in Islam.
My father tries to pray, but misses it much, and my mother prays regularly, though missing
some and making them up.What am I supposed