Praise be to Allaah.
Praise be to Allaah in all circumstances.
My dear brother, what you have described is indeed difficult and hard, but the Muslim can do nothing but accept the decree of Allaah and face whatever difficulties Allaah sends by following the means prescribed in sharee’ah.
What we advise you to do is the following:
-Consult a trustworthy Muslim psychologist.
-Seek help through ruqyahs prescribed in sharee’ah [i.e., reciting Qur’aan and du’aa’s for the purpose of seeking healing]. You can recite ruqyah over yourself, or ask a righteous person to do this for you.
-If things do not change, we advise you to have patience, to fear Allaah and do your duty towards Him, and to persist in making du’aa’; Allaah will make a way out for you.
-If this goes on for a long time and causes difficulties for your wife, there may be no option other than separation (divorce), and Allaah will provide abundance for everyone of them from His bounty (cf. Al-Nisaa’ 4:130)
-You have to have faith in Allaah and be optimistic. As time goes by, things may change.
We ask Allaah to relieve your distress and to help you soon. And Allaah is the source of strength.