Praise be to Allah.
- With regard to the first ‘Umrah, concerning which you did not remember whether the period came during it or after it, it is a valid ‘Umrah, because the basic principle with regard to acts of worship is that they are sound, and uncertainty after having completed an act of worship does not matter.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Doubt or uncertainty after having completed an act of worship does not matter. For example, if a person is uncertain as to whether he did five or six circuits of tawaaf, we say: if he is still in tawaaf, let him do what he is uncertain of, and that will be the end of the matter. If it is after he has finished tawaaf and he has left (the mataaf), and he says, “By Allah, I do not know whether I did six or seven circuits,” that uncertainty does not matter; he should ignore this doubt and regard it as seven.
This is a very useful principle; if a person has a lot of doubt and uncertainty, he should not pay any attention to that. If the uncertainty arises after he has finished an act of worship, he should not pay any attention to it, unless he is certain. If he is certain, then he must do that which he had omitted.
End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb
- With regard to the second ‘Umrah, as you cannot remember whether you entered ihram and did ‘Umrah or not, you do not have to do anything about it. The basic principle is that you are free of obligation, so do not pay any attention to these doubts.
- With regard to the third ‘Umrah which you did with your sister and her husband, it is a valid ‘Umrah, but you did a mistake by travelling to Makkah without a mahram, so you have to repent and seek forgiveness. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No woman should travel except with a mahram.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3006; Muslim, 1341
- With regard to the fourth ‘Umrah, we say concerning it what we said concerning the first and second ‘Umrahs, which is that you should not pay any attention to this uncertainty, because the basic principle is that you are free of obligation.
To sum up, you are now free of obligation, and you do not have to repeat any of these ‘Umrahs.
However we should point out that what you should have done is to ask about matters that affected your acts of worship at the time when it happened, and not delay doing so. Rather you should hasten to find out what you need to know about acts of worship, and hasten to do that which is required of you. We also advise you not to pay attention to doubts and waswaas (whispers from the Shaytaan), and not to let them affect your worship, otherwise it will ruin your entire life, for the Shaytaan is eager to make the believer feel sad. So turn away from him and his traps, and seek refuge with Allah from him. We ask Allah to help you to remember Him, be grateful to Him and to worship Him properly.
And Allah knows best.