Praise be to Allah.
The squeezing of the grave is the first thing that happens to the deceased when he is placed in his grave. In the texts it indicates that this is something that happens to everyone who is placed in the grave, and no one is spared it. And Allaah is the One Whose help we seek.
Ahmad (6/55, 98) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The grave has squeezing. If anyone were to be saved from it or spared it, Sa’d ibn Mu’aadh would have been spared it.” Al-Albaani said in al-Saheehah (1685): This hadeeth, when its isnaads and corroborating reports are all taken into account, is undoubtedly saheeh. We ask Allaah to make the squeezing of the grave easy for us, for He is the Most Generous.
It was narrated from Abu Ayyoob (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a boy was buried, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If anyone were to be spared the squeezing of the grave, this boy would be spared.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Mu’jam al-Kabeer (4/121); classed as saheeh by al-Haythami (3/47) and by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (2164).
The scholars differed as to whether children will be questioned in the grave or not. There are two views:
1 – That they will be questioned. This is the view of some of the Maalikis and some of the Hanbalis. It was the view favoured by al-Qurtubi and also by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, as is narrated from him in al-Furoo’.
See: al-Furoo’ (2/216); Sharh al-Zarqaani, 2/85.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Rooh (87-88):
The proof of those who say that they will be questioned is that is it prescribed to offer the funeral prayer for them and to say du’aa’ for them and to ask Allaah to protect them from the torment of the grave and the trial of the grave.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) offered the funeral prayer for a boy, and he was heard praying: “O Allaah, protect him from the torment of the grave.” Narrated by Maalik (536) and Ibn Abi Shaybah (6/105).
They also quoted as evidence the report narrated by ‘Ali ibn Ma’bad from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), that the funeral of a small boy passed by her and she wept. It was said to her: “Why are you weeping, O Mother of the Believers?” She said: “This boy; I am weeping out of compassion for him because of the squeezing of the grave.”
They said: Allaah will make them mature so that they will understand the situation they are in and they will be inspired to answer the questions that they are asked. End quote.
2 – That they will not be tested or questioned in their graves. This is the view of the Shaafa’is and some of the Maalikis and Hanbalis.
Ibn Muflih said in al-Furoo’ (2/216):
This is the view of al-Qaadi and of Ibn ‘Aqeel. End quote.
The evidence for this view was explained by Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him), and it seems that he was inclined towards this view, when he said in al-Rooh (87-88):
The others said:
The questioning is only for the one who is mature enough to understand the message sent by Allaah to His Messenger; he will be asked whether he believed in the Messenger and obeyed him or not? It will be said to him: “What did you say about this man who was sent among you?” With regard to the child who has no understanding of these issues, how could he be asked what do you say about this man who was sent among you? If his reasoning is restored to him in the grave, he would not be asked about something he could not understand or have knowledge of, and there would be no point in this questioning.
With regard to the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah, the torment in the grave does not mean that the child is being punished for not obeying or committing sin, for Allaah does not punish anyone for a sin he did not do.
Rather the torment of the grave refers to the pain that is felt by the deceased for other reasons, and it is not a punishment for something that he did. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The deceased is tormented because of his family’s crying for him,” i.e., he feels pain and suffers because of that; he is not being punished because of the sin of the living.
Undoubtedly there is pain and misery in the grave which may affect the child and cause him pain. So it is prescribed for the one who is offering the funeral prayer for him to ask Allaah to protect him from that torment. And Allaah knows best. End quote.
With regard to where the children who have died are – are they in the seventh heaven with Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) or in their graves?
What has been narrated concerning that is the hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) often used to say to his companions: “Has anyone among you seen a dream?” and whoever Allaah willed would tell him what he had seen. One day he said: “Last night two people came to me and made me get up, and they said to me: ‘Let’s go.’ So I set off with them…” He mentioned things that he had seen, then he said:
“We set off, and we came to a verdant garden, in which were all the colours of spring, where there was a man who was so tall that I could hardly see his head in the sky. Around the man was the largest number of children I had ever seen…” Then among things that the two angels explained to him was: “As for the tall man who was in the garden, that was Ibraaheem. As for the children who were around him, these are all the children who died in a state of fitrah.” One of the Muslims said: “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the children of the mushrikeen?” He said: “And the children of the mushrikeen.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (7047).
This hadeeth indicates that whoever dies before reaching the age of puberty is in Paradise under the care of Ibraaheem (peace be upon him), not that he is in the seventh heaven.
See: Sharh Muslim by al-Nawawi, hadeeth no. 2657.
There are many ahaadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) which speak of children interceding for their parents on the Day of Resurrection, such as the following:
It was narrated that Abu Hassaan said: I said to Abu Hurayrah: Two sons of mine have died. Will you not narrate to us a hadeeth from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that will comfort us in our loss?
He said: Yes, their children are the little ones of Paradise, and one of them will meet his father – or his parents – and take hold of his garment – or his hand – as I am taking hold of the edge of this garment of yours, and he will not let go until Allaah admits him and his father to Paradise. Narrated by Muslim (2635).
And Allaah knows best.