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My wife and I live in a house separate from my family’s house, because there were so many problems, and I promised my wife that I would not leave her. After a while, my father asked me to come back to the family home to live with him, me and my wife, but my wife refused. What should I do? Should I obey my father and break the promise I made to my wife? Is that included in the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “And fulfill [every] commitment. Indeed, the commitment is ever [that about which one will be] questioned” [al-Israa’ 17:34]?
Praise be to Allah.
Undoubtedly the rights of the father over the child are great. But so long as your wife does not want to live in his house, then you cannot force her to do so. You can convince your father of that, and let your wife live in a separate house, whilst maintaining contact with your father, honouring him, pleasing him and treating him kindly as much as you can.
Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa ash-Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (3/405)