Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
Allaah has permitted a man to be married to one or two, up to four, at any one time, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice”
[al-Nisa’ 4:3]
If a man takes a second wife then he dies, both wives share the inheritance, and one does not get more than the other. They are both included in the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[al-Nisa’ 4:12]
This is the ruling of Allaah, Who is the wisest of Judges and the most Merciful of those who show mercy. Every believing man and woman must submit to this and humble themselves, and not feel resentment towards the ruling of Allaah and what He has prescribed in sharee’ah, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36]
“But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad ) judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission”
[al-Nisa’ 4:36]
Our advice to your respected mother is to fear Allaah and to accept what He has decreed, and to have certain faith that the ruling of Allaah is just, merciful, good and right. “And who is better in judgement than Allaah for a people who have firm Faith?” [al-Maa'idah 5:50].
She should be very wary of turning away from the ruling of Allaah or rejecting it, or feeling anxious because of it, because that is a serious matter.
No one knows whether he will be an heir or the one from whom others inherit, so why should he become so attached to worldly things and feel content with them whilst losing his religious commitment by turning away and not accepting what Allaah has decreed?
Secondly:
The property that was present during the first marriage falls into two categories:
1 – That which has passed from the husband’s possession to the wife’s by being given as a gift or because it is part of her dowry etc. This is the property of the wife and does not form part of the husband’s estate if he dies. For example, if the husband gives his wife a house, gold or furniture, or if the gold or furniture was part of the dowry, as is the custom in some countries.
2 – That which belonged to the husband and still belonged to him until he died. This is included in his estate and it should be divided among all his heirs according to their shares. For example, if the husband had real estate or money, which he took possession of before his first marriage, or after that, or after his second marriage, and it did not cease to be his property by being given as a gift, etc. This is included in his estate after he dies.
Perhaps what the Shaykh you refer to said applied to the furnishings of the house etc, which in some countries people regard as being part of the wife’s dowry, so it belongs to her and is not included in the husband’s estate.
Similarly, the delayed portion of the dowry belongs to the wife and she may take it from the estate before it is divided, because it comes under the same ruling as a debt.
Some husbands give the first wife some money or property that is to belong to her. If this is done before the second marriage takes place, there is nothing wrong with it, but if it is done after that it is not permissible unless he gives the second wife something similar. The Standing Committee for Research and Issuing Fatwas was asked: I have two wives and I want to buy gold for one of them as a gift. Is it permissible for me to do that? Or is this regarded as not treating co-wives fairly? Please note that I am not falling short with regard to the rights of the other wife.
They replied: Whoever has two or more wives must treat them fairly. It is not permissible for him to single out one of his wives in any way to the exclusion of the other(s) with regard to spending, accommodation and spending time with them. There is a stern warning issued to the one who has two wives and does not treat them equally. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad (2/295, 347, 471). Al-Nasaa’i and Ibn Maajah narrated something similar in their Sunans.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and inclines more towards one of them will come on the Day of Resurrection with half his body leaning.” Narrated by Abu Dawood in his Sunan (2/601). Al-Tirmidhi narrated a similar report in his Jaami’.
This evidence indicates that it is essential to treat co-wives fairly and that it is haraam for the husband to favour one of them more than the other, apart from the inclination of the heart, for the inclination of the heart cannot be controlled. Hence the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say: “O Allaah, this is my division in that over which I have control, so do not call me to account for that over which I have no control” (i.e., the love of the heart).
Based on that, it is not permissible for this husband to give things that he owns to one wife and not to the other. If he gives a house etc to one of his wives then he must treat all his wives equally and also give the same to all of his wives, or something of equal value, unless the second wife lets him off. End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (16/189).
And Allaah knows best.
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